If You Have A Bigger Purpose, Fear Just Becomes A Minimal Obstacle
Just a few days ago, I received my first dose of the covid vaccination. As a person who was afraid of needles and did whatever I can do to prevent myself from getting in the situation, I had found myself standing tall and brave when I got the vaccine.
I asked myself, “What may be the reason that I’m not afraid this time?”
At first, I wasn’t able to come up with an explanation.
But then, I realized that taking the vaccination had the purpose of overcoming social distancing, self-quarantine, and the chance of being ill from the virus. An obstacle that I’ve(we’ve) been struggling with the whole past year.
Although vaccination is one form of a bigger purpose, we have more purposes in our life.
As we overcome more fears, then the chance of achieving our purpose gets closer.
For instance, if you want to increase your salary at your day job, you will have to overcome the fear of asking your employer for a raise. As an alternative option, you may want to overcome the fear of quitting your job if you're going to start your own business.
Having many fears is not a bad thing; instead, it’s a good sign that you have something bigger you want to accomplish.
If you can’t take any action because of fear, you will have to ask yourself whether your purpose is worthy enough. If the aim is not significant to your life, you’ll likely not overcome it.
So, once in a while, it’s good to observe what goals you have in mind.
The higher the purpose, the higher fear you get, but the hope is a factor that helps you overcome the obstacle.
This explains the reason why I was able to conquer my fear of needles from the first part. Although I had a fear of needles had my fear increased as the time came, I understood that a more significant result is right ahead of me, which allowed me to rebuttal against my fear to take action.
What we have to realize is that the state of fear is just temporary. It’s the short burst of emotion that lasts temporarily that is blocking our way. Once that fear is over, then there is a new side of life waiting for us. The key point is to maintain hope and believe that the result will overlay our fears.
As a similar experience, I’ve taken many fears out of my life recently:
- I was able to write daily for months after overcoming the fear of criticism—with the hope of becoming a better writer and influencing people.
- I started painting after overcoming the fear of not painting well—with the hope of being an artist and showcasing my work to a bigger audience.
- I was able to travel during the pandemic after overcoming the fear of losing the opportunity—with the hope of getting inspired and learning new things.
We all have obstacles in our life. By knowing how to overcome these obstacles, we can achieve more significant results with more satisfaction.
1. Think about what obstacles you are facing right now
What is stopping you from taking action? Have you had the barriers for a while? If so, it’s time to face your fear and overcome it.
Maybe you are living a mundane lifestyle that you want to makeshift for a newer experience. Then, it’s time to get out of your comfort zone and seek a different pathway within your daily life.
If you are not satisfied with your current job, then it’s time to experiment with new ways to earn an income—whether it is by writing, selling, freelancing, and so forth. Try out different things and implement them in your life. You will only know whether you like it or not by doing it.
2. Weigh the pros and cons of your fear
Not all fears should be fought back. Only fight back fears that block the way of your passion. For instance, there is no need to fight back fears of height if you are not planning to become a skydiver or find new fulfillment through the act of overcoming fears. Instead, fighting fears that stop you from pursuing your goal is far more important than the previous.
One way to know whether you should see the obstacle's value is to write down the pros and cons. If the pros outweigh the cons, then that’s a good sign that you should overcome the fears. And vice versa.
3. How big are the risks that you have to handle?
After you weighed your pros and cons, you will still have to see how much of a risk you will have. You can’t just quit your job just because you want to start a business. You will still need a foundation for your business and have a secured income to stabilize your lifestyle.
Instead, you can diversify the risk by doing side-jobs while you are at your day job to balance out—reaping two benefits at the same time.
Unless you want to work in the field (which requires a full-time), most of the side jobs can be done online these days. And taking advantage when you can is an ideal scenario.
After the pros and cons, make sure that the risk is balanced out.
4. Take action and observe how overcoming that obstacle feels
Now that you’ve chosen the fear to overcome, the next step is to take bold action. Whether you know the consequence or not, it’s better than regretting not taking action in the future. To live to the fullest also means to take the necessary actions that you feel doing it. We never know what the other side of our life will be like if we never take any action. Fears that we face now can become a joy once you encounter them. For me, it was the fear of needles. For you, it can be the fear of something else. We’re all different, and we have other priorities in our life.
Knowing the obstacles that are stopping you from progressing and overcoming the fear through bold action makes us move forward positively.
Why not do it once more?
I’m excited to know what kind of fears you’ve overcome. If it wasn’t as bad as you think, why not give it another try? Or maybe tackle other obstacles you want to resolve. Removing one fear may not change your life dramatically; however, eliminating numerous fears does change your life dramatically.
Choose the fears wisely and take action to overcome them one at a time. You’ll soon see a positive change in your life after all.